Is Mom Healthy or Not?

Is mom healthy or not

I was listening to the radio today and they were talking about how parents-moms could not wait till their kids went back to school.  Then the conversation went on to say something about stay at home moms and working moms.  I heard what was said and then I said to my husband driving “What did I just hear?”

My husband replied “I think they just said a mom is healthier if they work and spend time away from their kids.”

“Huh” I said.

It seems that ever study always says that women are happier if they go to work to bring a pay check home.  And if you stay at home you will sit in front of the TV and eat bon bons and get fat.  And feel worthless.  Oh yeah don’t forget the kids and where ever they fit into happy healthy mom-lazy fat unhealthy mom equation.

Is mom healthier if they work and spend time away from their kids verse moms who stay at home with their kids all summer long and can’t wait for their kids to go back to school?

Here is the deal.  It totally disagree.  While I could get into the whole “what is better for the child” argument, and many will throw different views and opinions at me, I am not.    Working or not working, being with your kids all day or not being with your kids all day isn’t what makes a mom healthy or unhealthy.

 I homeschool.

I don’t “look forward to sending my kids away to school” every year.  I look forward to activities starting.  I look forward to finding a few hours through out the week for myself.  I look forward to time spend with just my husband. I look forward to time alone at Target and Starbucks.   I look forward to bedtime.  But most of all I look forward to spending time with my kids.

Am I unhealthy for homeschooling and being home with all my kids?  If I don’t take care of myself I could be.  But that is the same truth for any mom in any situation.  You have to take care of yourself.  A working mom can be unhealthy for working to many hours and not spending enough time with her family.

As a mom, regardless of whether you homeschool, stay at home or work being healthy is important.  One vs the other does not make a mom any healthier or unhealthy.  Being with my kids full-time does not me unhealthy.  I am healthy because I take care of myself and balance my time.  I am not perfect at this.  Some weeks are worse than others.  But that is not the fault of being with my kids full-time.

It is the old tired out debate of should moms work or not.  It is tired.  If we stopped focusing on this and focused our attention on other pressing issues like children who don’t have a mom  at all, wouldn’t that be a better way to use our time than always worrying about which mom is happy or should a mom work or not?

What do you think.  Does working or being away from your kids full-time make you healthier?

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