When I had my first baby I wanted to be with him all the time. This is normal. Mom’s need to be with their children and at the same time I treasured those little trips to Target to get food. Just small outings where my husband could have one on one time with our baby boy. As Robby grew I was never away from him over night. I adjusted my job so either he came with me, or I came home for the night and went back in the morning.
Then when Robby was three Dan arranged two days away for our anniversary to Chattanooga. He had friends of ours watch Robby for those two days. Those were the hardest two days of my life and the best two days. Permission Granted. I could be away from him and he was just fine. He had a blast. In fact, two weeks later he went to my sister’s house for a few days too.
New moms need to know it is ok to be away from their kids. They have permission, actually they really don’t need permission. Part of raising kids is teaching them to fly. Part of that is done by gently pushing them out of the nest. We home school, gently pushing them out of the nest comes in forms of summer camps, VBS, homeschooling classes and other clubs and sports throughout the year. My husband and I have taken week-long trips together without the children.
Moms you have permission to be away from your kids. It is ok. Yes some will cry, and it will be hard. I have a five-year old who cried, screamed, yelled, threw, you named it he probably did it when we dropped him off at our church CDC for morning preschool. I finally had to take him out. But a few more months at home and he has made it a week at VBS. But I know not all kids are not easy.
I also look at foster moms, since I am one too. In one year we can all of a sudden have a house full of kids. Most families take years to have this many kids. And if you are a stay at home foster mom, the state does not fund child care for you. So here you are left with little ones and no help. But you need help. Permission is granted to ask. In fact you don’t need permission. Just because you are a stay at home mom, does not mean you should not be allowed help for daycare, or summer camp for your kids. You need a break. You have to take care of yourself first. Ask, ask, ask.
Moms, it is ok to be away from your kids. To send them to VBS for the week or summer camp. Even if they are in school all year, it is still ok. Each mom is different and do what you know you can handle. Permission is granted for you to be an awesome mom, and amazing mom. Call another mom and go out for coffee. Get a baby sitter and go on a date with your husband. Have your husband take the kids to the movies and you stay home. Your deserve it.