5. Teaches right from wrong
Notice the word teaches. I talk to many parents who expect their children to know this. But like anything else there is a training period that lasts about 18 plus years.
You are the biggest example in teaching right from wrong.
Let’s face it even God knew this was going to a tough thing for us to know right from wrong. This is why He gave us the 10 commandments. While he expects us to keep these commandments perfectly, He knows we can’t so He sent his son Jesus to die on the cross for us. This is the foundation for teaching my kids right from wrong.
A while ago I wrote a post on lying. Why do they lie? Why do our kids do the things they do? We have many issues with Isaiah. As I started this post, I had pause to do a time out with him for stealing his brother’s blue tooth. And his chocolate Easter Bunny front he freezer. And for food under his bed. (it is bed room cleaning day!) Isaiah is five, he entered our family at 3 months. So he has been raised by us, same morals and values. Same rules. I keep teaching him right from wrong.
One of our foster boys I made up a little reminder sheet for him. He had sticky pockets. AKA as always taking things with him that were not his. He did this a lot from his class room. He would take things from other kids backpacks. He could walk by something and just take it.
The reminder sheet simple said:
Is it yours? Yes, then you may have it. No, leave it be.
I think one of the best ways to teach kids right from wrong is to discuss it daily. Talk about why what they did was wrong, not that it was just wrong. Keep the communication open. Discuss the 10 commandment. Martin Luther’s Catechism is great to review the 10 commandments and their meanings. There are many great ways to memorize the 10 commandments.
Having Family Rules also help. This gives them guide lines to so they know what is right and what is wrong. We have rules, but they have become unwritten down again. Again a May project we are working on to update them. I think rules should not be should nots.
You should not hit. Instead say,
In this family/house we respect each other. Which means we do not hit, kick, bite, smack, pull hair, spit, punch or hurt any one. Including the pets.
This way is also better for new foster kids coming in. Using “In this family” get past the “well in my family we do it this way.” I simple respond with, in this family we do it this was. This also works well with friends who are over visiting. Some with use the Lords name in vain. We simple say, “In this family we respect God’s name. Please don’t use God’s name in vain.”
Pinterest really has some great and cleaver ideas for making family rules. I thinks families have embraced family rules beyond the “should nots”